High (and unfair) Expectations

It’s been a while since I last posted. I’m a professional blogger and my ‘daytime job’ blog has been taking up all my brain power.

You know what I’ve been thinking lately, though…how unfair ‘the system’ is with their expectations of us special parents. For instance…most people in society and in government find it completely reasonable to leave educating a child to the public school system. It’s generally accepted that school will teach your children all they need to know to succeed. Read, write, calculate, curse (hey, everyone needs to know how to insult their way to the top of the climbing frame of life!) No social workers have been coming around making sure I’ve taught Jack how to read before he started school or checked that we were working our way through the times table.

Yet with Grace, our special child, we are visited multiple times weekly and shown how to interact with her, how to show her toys (it takes highly specialised training to show a baby toys you know!) So this is my question: why don’t they let us leave that up to the school system too? Why on earth are the most monumental milestones of learning to read and write left to the school system and not demanded of parents, but when your child is special, suddenly they’re expected to have ‘accomplishments’ before they enter special school and I’m solely responsible for bringing these about? It’s truly exhausting.